Why You Should Read The Let Them Theory

I know I know… OH GREAT, another self help book I should read that’s going to tell me the same 5 things I know I should do but keep doing:

“Stop caring what others think of me”. 

“Have faith when times get hard”.

Oh yeah: “Eat good food and exercise, don’t look at social media, believe in yourself, trust your gut!!”

As someone who has read self help books on top of self help books-trust me-I GET IT. You read one, you feel super inspired for the next few days and you are ready to be the best version of yourself-

And then your sister does something that really bugs you-and you just wish she would stop and oh my god that’s all you can think about.

And then your job is really annoying you so once again it becomes all you can complain about.

And then your phone looks so so tempting, so then you start scrolling and OH MY GOD you become so jealous of everyone having their perfect life-and you are just so mad at yourself that you just wasted two hours scrolling on tiktok and boom

The cycle of self help books is born. 

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Which is why I was so hesitant to read Mel Robins’s The Let Them Theory. I kept hearing it on podcasts, seeing it on social media, walking past it in book stores- and every time a little part of me would want to buy it, read it, dive into it-but another part of me was scared it would just be what all the other self help books were telling me-and I would get bored halfway through.

A few weeks before school started I bit the bullet. I had an audible credit and I said ok, let’s listen to Mel Robins (side note I highly suggest listening to this book as Mel Robins reads it so well and I feel like I absorbed the information so much more!!-It feels like you’re listening to a podcast). Safe to say I loved every second of it, and the end left me with chills.

This post will not be a review of the book, because I truly believe it is a book you need to read and absorb for yourself. Each person, in each stage of life they are in will take what they need from this book-and it’s one to read again and again. 

Instead here are 3 short reasons why you should read, and the top 5 things I learned. 

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Why You Should Read The Let Them Theory

1. Mel Robbins does not act like she knows everything. She is not saying she has all the answers. She tells her imperfect human stories from her past and present-because we all are imperfect. We are all jealous and angry and bossy sometimes. And she accepts that, and she tells it as it is. 
2. You can read it at every stage of life: Teenager, adult, getting into a relationship, breaking up, broke, got a new job, mom, dad EVERYONE CAN RELATE CONNECT AND LEARN SOMETHING.
3. It will teach you to worry about YOU. It will not force you to think you are superior with this new thought or way of life-trying to force it upon everyone you meet because THEY need it. No. You focus on you. And let everyone else be. 

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With no explanation here are the top five things I learned.

1. You are wasting your own life by trying to control others.
2. Someone will always be richer, smarter, funnier, better, faster. Stop making excuses for what you can change, and stop wasting time wishing for something that can’t be changed, 
3. Be the beacon of hope
4. Ask yourself Why. When you are jealous about your friend getting that job: Why? Why again? Well why is that? Go deeper each time until you find the root. 
5. Let them is only half of it-LET ME, is the rest. 

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Let them, Let me.